Expression of unconditional love
Unconditional love is an essential part of parental care. Without the existence of love without conditions to any child it’s hard to feel loved and welcome. I want to suggest to read some pedagogical theory about how we can Express the deep sense of love and gratitude to the child or young person, that we genuinely feel for him. The majority of parents, teachers, caregivers truly love children. But the question is, is the kids know that we really love them unselfishly and always, no matter what the conditions?
Why is it important for the child to feel that he is loved? Because in the period of childhood in every person creates his or her own “I”. In the same period, the child learns about the reliability or the hostile world into which he came, to develop a sense of confidence to yourself and others. Dose of love received in childhood, the child will develop the appropriate attitude. We adults are responsible for something that the child has received enough joy, positive emotions, warmth and generosity.
All the complexity is that the child is still small, he sees and perceives the world and adults are not the way we do. Children are not able to think critically and analyze our words, actions. They perceive every word we say, perfect action.
Children are a blank sheet of paper that you will write, and read. The child will be able to reflect only what he was able to take. If the child is to give love, to retrieve it. If this doesn’t give — get nothing. People who have not received enough love as a child, just doesn’t know how to love and be loved in adult life.
These adults have difficulty in how to Express his love to others. Famous American pediatrician and educator Ross Campbell gives advice to such people. He insists that we, parents and teachers, learned and practiced to Express their love to the children. We are responsible for ensuring that they are all around us were happy and felt loved.
The peculiarity of the child’s period of life is that we communicate mostly on the emotional level. Their feelings children do not yet know how to verbalize, they do it through their behavior, which is directly related to emotional experiences. If you want to determine what a child feels in the mood, just watch him and react wisely . accordingly the moment.
Children through behavior tell us something important about yourself. In the same way they ask the question to parents, “do you love me?”. They also have the ability to accurately identify our feelings, our response to children’s behavior. It is therefore important to learn how to Express your love not only words but also actions.
Ross Campbell identifies four main components of the behaviour of adults.
We can Express our love child:
– during the exchange of views;
– physical contact;
– at the moment of undivided attention;
– in the process of disciplining.
Each component is very important scientist and recommends using them together in the process of growth and maturation of children. In the following editions will be more written about it.
I want to introduce you to another important point of view on the topic of unconditional love. The famous American philosopher and educator Gary Chapman is a researcher harmonious relations between adults and children. He came to the conclusion that every child — the personality and has its own ”language of love”. He identifies five types, which we can refer to the children:
1.Words of encouragement;
G. Chapman describes in detail these ”languages of love”, gives recommendations on how to determine what language the child wants to talk. He also teaches parents how to master these languages and to communicate freely with them. This knowledge will help us to change the behavior accordingly, “language of love” son or daughter.
G. Chapman utverjdaet the following:”the child was happy, he must be sure that he is loved.”
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