Parenting without punishments and cry
The efficiency of the presented here educational methods has been repeatedly confirmed in practice. If in the process of upbringing you usually resort to shouting and punishments, then this book will help you to rethink this approach. Following the advice of authors, you will easily be able to maintain discipline, to avoid conflicts, and in addition, will teach children the most important life lesson – teach them to love and empathize, to maintain peace and tranquility in the family.
The book is made in the form of a Handbook that will allow readers to quickly and easily find ways to solve those or other behavioral problems. It is addressed to all parents who seek to avoid rigid and educational measures to maintain a healthy atmosphere in the house. Here you will find answers to eternal questions and problems of education with which millions of parents face every day.
All children, even the obedient, from time to time behave far better. This is especially true of preschool, and family environment (safe or not) often does not matter. The fact that kids (as parents) are different from each other in temperament and socio-economic status, but they all have their own needs and desires. When the needs and desires of children and parents are not the same, the problems begin.
Issues that often seem to be very serious, can be solved relatively easily, if parents learn how to properly perceive the child’s needs and respond to them. In this book you will find practical tips for resolving the most common problems associated with the behavior of preschool children. Useful recommendations will help parents and caregivers of children to prevent serious conflicts.
Our goal is to explain to parents how to safely, consistently and effectively – without shouting and corporal punishment to deal with disobedience. We want all moms and dads have learned to control myself, that is never lost composure and ability to think soberly, when the child is naughty and does not listen. Balanced and sensible parents will not apply in relation to child endangerment and violence in any form, because in this way we only give them to understand that you can control the person’s behavior, causing him pain or instilling fear.
In this book under the education we understand not punishment, but an explanation of how to behave and how not, and why. This approach is based on forty years of professional experience in educating their own children. We studied and then taught developmental psychology and the psychology of childhood in institutions of higher education, worked as psychologists in children’s hospitals and schools, we are backed by five major scientific works on education, organizing and conducting seminars and consultations for parents, numerous appearances on radio and television and articles in Newspapers, magazines and online publications. At the core of the problem-solving principles and methods of education, outlined in this book, is behaviorism is one of the theoretical trends in psychology dealing with children’s behavior in natural environment: at home, at school, on the Playground. Since its original publication in 1984 in behaviorism emerged new trends, which are reflected in this edition:
The link between violence in school and at home.
The connection between the hobby of toy guns at an early age and thrust the weapon into the adult years.
The issue of corporal punishment: are flip flops moderate strength?
The influence of computers, the Internet, television, video games on the behavior of the child.
Methods of diagnosis of attention deficit disorder and hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).
Causes and consequences of childhood obesity.
Problems of education in a single-parent family.
The important role of the family in developing the ability to empathize.
This book is composed in the form of guide that allows you to easily and quickly find ways to solve those or other problems of behaviour. We give a short recommendation with which it is possible to prevent the looming conflict or to resolve. The application of the proposed methods in practice is illustrated with specific examples of situations, characters which are fictional.
The period from one year to five is one of the most important in a child’s life and parents, because at this time the foundations of physical, emotional and mental development. To undertake the education and training of preschool children, on the one hand, it is easy and difficult. It is easy because at this age children are very inquisitive, resourceful, energetic and independent. But it is difficult because at the same time they can be stubborn and closed. Additional difficulties in the upbringing of children of preschool age create frequent mood swings and the inability of kids logical reasoning. So be ready that education (or an explanation of how we named this process above) will not always proceed smoothly. Sometimes your words will find their place, like the seeds that fell into fertile ground, and sometimes you will feel that all actions and explanations as useless as trying to knock his head a brick wall.
This is not surprising. Judge for yourself: the children and their parents shared not only the age difference but a huge difference in life experience, the ability to reason and control his behavior, thinking, emotions, expectations, rules of conduct, beliefs about the world and ourselves. For example, children from birth unknown, what to paint on the walls is impossible. The task of parents – to patiently explain to the child how to implement creativity where you can draw, encourage obedience, and to understand the consequences of violating the rule.
At the same time, children have their needs, desires and emotions, most of which they still can not clearly Express. In the first five years of life, babies actively seek independence and autonomy, often rejecting care and assistance to adults.
Parents want to teach children such “adult” qualities as the ability to control themselves and independence. It is important to remember that the child’s mind differs from the mind of an adult, and take into account individual peculiarities of development of the baby. Don’t forget: family relationships must be built on empathy, trust and respect.
The first and most important – your task is to clearly explain to the children how to behave. For example, if a child is naughty, it should not only soothe, but also to show a more appropriate way to deal with anger and irritation. Moreover, parents themselves should set an example of conduct, which require the kids, only then their values will be close and understandable to children.